The relationships we have with others are often a mirror for how we relate to God. Our particular patterns and skills in relating will enrich or compromise our experience of prayer just as they affect our relationships with people. Awareness of who we bring to God in prayer is key to an enlivened relationship with God.
As part of the launch tour for his new book, ‘Prayer as Relationship’, Sergio Milandri will be speaking about renewing our connection with God, at churches, community centres and cafés across Cape Town, from May to July.
We hope you can join us for these free talks!
Click here to view the event listings.
Launch special on our website for the ‘Prayer as Relationship’ book and group study bundle:
Continue reading Join us for the ‘Prayer as Relationship’ Book Launch Tour
A reflection on the risk, and necessity, of self-love
Most of us were formed by people who programmed us to fit into society. It left us with feelings of ambivalence about who were, with feelings of inadequacy, instead of unconditional self-acceptance. We found ourselves wondering how to conform and how we could please others. Continue reading Pulling Out Our ‘Pegs’
We’re learning how to trust ourselves in order to live more authentically and therefore encourage others to become their true selves.
Listen to an excerpt on parenting from a recent Sans Pareil Session:
We’re learning how to trust ourselves in order to live more authentically.
Listen to an excerpt about this topic from a recent Sans Pareil Session:
This morning’s ‘Prayer as Relationship’ launch at TGIF Stellenbosch was a great time together. Thanks to all the folk who made it.
View the upcoming events at www.relating.com/events
Tomorrow Sergio will be speaking again in Stellenbosch! Join him at the ‘Prayer as Relationship’ quiet day at the Christian Brothers’ Centre in Paradyskloof. The meeting runs from 9:00 am to 3:00 pm. Please bring a packed lunch to share. All welcome. Copies of the book will be on sale.
Understanding our mom’s past brings clarity and compassion to our own story.
In order for each of us to become our own person we need to leave our mother’s force field. Co-dependence with her is easy and good as a starting point, but it’s not a good ending point.
To help young men and women with this journey to self-hood, many cultures have rituals which are significant both for the mother and her child. For us in the West, often all we get when we turn 21 is a key that doesn’t fit anywhere or open anything. For us it’s an ongoing process of learning to trust our way of seeing instead of always deferring to our mother’s opinion. This isn’t an easy shift as, for many of our growing years, her well-intentioned choices decided how we should behave in ways she felt were socially appropriate. We often conformed without question simply for fear of rejection or being ostracized. Continue reading Our Mother’s Moulding
Our mother’s role in learning to trust ourselves.
Our ability to relate is a learnt skill and all our lives we continue this journey of learning to relate. Our mother’s womb was a special place, a perfect environment where all our physical needs were met. Though we were tiny we read her emotional force field very well. When we registered negative emotions we developed patterns about our own ability to trust ourselves and the world around us.
Continue reading Finding Healing for What We have Received
We’re so happy to have gotten ‘Prayer as Relationship’ to the printers this week. Some months ago we decided to republish one of Sergio’s articles from The South African Journal of Theology as its own book. After a fun, and involved, process we’ve created something worth celebrating – from illustrations, to quotes and group questions, the piece has really come into its own. The first copies of our new book will be on sale soon!
“The relationships we have with others are often a mirror for how we relate to God. Our particular patterns and skills in relating will enrich or compromise our experience of prayer just as they affect our relationships with people. Awareness of who we bring to God in prayer is key to an enlivened relationship with God.” – Prayer as Relationship
Looking at the patterns of identity we’ve learned from our father.
Most often, when we define ourselves, we think of our material successes as if our inherent worth is measured by the amount of money we have. If we find our identity in many external things – what we own, what people think of us, who we aspire to be like – then our true identity is stolen from us. Continue reading Do We Really Want to Change?