Needs Draw Us to Life

To be human is to have needs and the place where they’re nourished and restored is in relationships. However, if we’ve been hurt or disappointed, we may shut down and try the route of independence, saying, “I don’t need you.” Life and growth are always a risk and always involve an opening of ourselves to parts we might not yet be familiar with. But if we choose not to take this path, we will deaden and stagnate, our inner reality will shrink. Continue reading Needs Draw Us to Life

Join the ‘Finding Your Purpose’ Retreat

We invite our community to join Jeremy Clampett and his team for the ‘Finding Your Purpose’ Retreat from 6 – 8 November 2015 near Hermanus in the Western Cape. We attended a similar retreat in the past and found it very restful. It was a good time to connect with ourselves and God in beautiful surroundings.

Click here for more information on Jeremy’s website.

“Sign up for a weekend that will give you the time, space and a clear mind to think about your life, where you’re headed and what you’re doing. An opportunity to connect with your ‘dream.’ A time of honest thinking and prayer to reflect on your values, your commitments, your personal mission and your long term life objectives.” – from Jeremy’s website

Being Seen in Full Measure

Our fundamental need as people is to be seen. From the start we were fed our identity through others’ eyes. If we were seen, we came alive. If we were not seen, or were seen critically, we were damaged or wounded and felt like we were a shadow and didn’t exist. As we grew, the receptivity in another’s eyes was so important, as it launched us, shaped us, gave us a sense of who we were. Continue reading Being Seen in Full Measure

Risking Manhood: A Course for Men and Women

Sign Up Button for the Course on our Early Bird Special.

The expression of authentic manhood has become increasingly difficult in our society. These problems centre on men having a growing sense of frustration with not having a clear sense of meaning or purpose. As women develop more independence, the fear of becoming irrelevant can cause men to become depressed or abusive. This is often due to a lack of understanding of their true identity and their unique place in society.

Women have for some time been entering a new reality about their identity and their contribution to society. Changes in the way they see themselves and the options they have, are broadening their choices and giving many a greater sense of power and control.

Despite these interior shifts, women are still faced with hardened attitudes in parts of society, and especially in their relationships with men. Many communities still have an ethos of male control, despite noticeable changes in the views of many men.

Risking Manhood explores the seven risks which men traditionally have had to undergo to achieve authentic manhood. These form the basis for grounding the identity firmly within one’s unique self and for establishing life-giving relationships. Continue reading Risking Manhood: A Course for Men and Women

Right Needs, Wrong Means

Our needs change through our different life stages as we grow and mature. The needs we have as children or teens should develop with us as we get older. Our awareness of our different needs will help us not to go to the wrong places to have them fulfilled. For example, when we think we can satisfy our real hunger for good food with just snacks, we’ve gone to the wrong place. In the same way, we must see in what ways we may be going to inappropriate places to satisfy our real need for love and touch. Continue reading Right Needs, Wrong Means

Fabiano Conference 2015 – Passed

We are pleased to announce that Catherine Fabiano will be returning to Franschhoek with her amazing conference entitled:

“Healing your Past, Releasing your future”

This conference enlightens us about the stages of our development
from conception to 30-years-old.

We have all been damaged by circumstances and/or people at some point during this period of our lives and the enemy has taken advantage of this. This conference offers an opportunity to be restored and redeemed, back to who we were meant to be
with the revelation of God’s knowledge and love of us.

Come and allow God to meet you directly – many miracles have occurred as Catherine has taught and ministered across the world.

Click here for event information.

This event is affirmed by Sergio and the relating team but it is in no way affiliated with All registration, information and course proceedings will be handled by the Fabiano Conference team. Please check with them for the latest details.


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